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I don’t know how to deal with the stage in dating where you first set expectations.

You like someone but you don’t want to like them too much because if they don’t like you that much you get disappointed. And if you try too hard you may push them away. But if you don’t try enough you may send the message that you don’t like them enough and then they pull away.

Or, I’ve found myself in the predicament where I receive the message that he’s feeling me and wants to spend time with me and I then I feel that it’s ok to set a specific expectation of his behavior and then he doesn’t rise to the occasion and I’m disappointed. So I fall back (because “my fall back game immaculate”) but then this nigga hit me with the “I just called to hear your voice” and “I can’t wait to see you again” and I’m caught off guard wondering if you yo-yo game playing or if my expectations are just off and I’m tripping. I’m left with a “what you want nigga?” but have to figure out how to say that and let him know what my expectations are without coming across like I’m nagging or doing too much.

Ugh.

The mantra is “don’t hem and haw over a man”. If it’s right, it’s right.

But I wonder if it’s ever just easy? Or this stage of expectation-setting is just part of the getting-to-know-you stage. Hm.

This part may be the worst.

My last two serious boyfriends didn’t have all this back and forth. Both parties had eyes only for the other (or so it seemed). I much prefer that but I know that’s rare…

It was chilly today. First scarf day of the season.

At the study group, he kept stealing little glances and smiles at me. *butterflies*

Afterwards we went to dinner and on the short walk to the restaurant, we held hands for the first time.

"Friends with Interest" is the adult "talking" stage? Ok. I’ll take that, sir.

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